Stepmothers

Stepmothers can be very difficult for the children of a previous wife to deal with.  There have always been problems blending families.  So many feelings are misinterpreted and relationships are more difficult to maintain because of that.

My  mother had a stepmother and so did my father.

My mother's father remarried when my mother was 6 years old.  My father's father remarried when my father was 28. Each remarriage created difficulties in the family.

This is the result of someone's remarriage

Several young women and a young man lost their lives because of a maladjustment between a stepmother and her stepson.  My interpretation of the situation is that the stepmother was somewhat predatory toward her husband's son from the previous marriage perceiving him as competition with her own child. Her close relationship with her stepson's father gave her power to to hurt the stepson and she did, by comparing him unfavorably to her own son, his little half brother.  So, the young man acted out with frustration and rage hurting several innocent victims and then hurting himself. In the end, the predatory stepmother was not punished, and her end results were achieved.  The individual perceived as competition removed himself from the equation.  Maybe his own mother could have saved him.


Maybe the stepmother's son will become a star, but I will tell my daughters they do not ever want her for their mother in law.  Like the wicked queen in a fairytale, or the human tigress she will compete and interfere in their relationships.


I look for that in myself. Will I harm my children's relationships?  I test other women to see if they will compete or cooperate.  Will they do things to ruin my relationship with their son?  Each of my grandfathers married women who competed with their existing families for their attention, and won.

I will not be involved in relationships with any hint of competition.  Competition is not love.